Thoughts of a 40+ years old software developer

Author: tygas

  • 6 Laws of Maturity

    6 Laws of Maturity

    • Selective silence > oversharing
    • Curated circle > random people
    • Low expectations, high appreciation
    • Process > mood
    • Control yourself, not others
    • Master your reactions

    Most people leak energy everywhere — talking too much, surrounding themselves with the wrong people, reacting emotionally, and expecting things they can’t control.

    Maturity is tightening that chaos.

    You don’t need to tell everyone your plans. Move quietly, let results speak.
    You don’t keep everyone around. Your circle either sharpens you or weakens you — there’s no neutral.
    You stop expecting people to behave how you want. Instead, you stay grounded and appreciate what actually happens.

    You stop negotiating with your feelings. You build systems and execute whether you feel like it or not. That’s where real progress comes from.

    You let go of controlling others — it’s a losing game. Focus on your actions, your standards, your output.

    And most important — you control your reactions. That’s where power is. Anyone can act tough when things go their way. Few stay composed when they don’t.

    That’s the difference.

  • Elon

    Elon

    Elon’s 5-step filter:

    1. Question the requirement itself
    2. Delete a part or process
    3. Simplify and optimize
    4. Accelerate cycle time
    5. Automate last

    AI does boring, endlessly repetitive, zero-glory work. People reserve decision making.

    IF your “#AI strategy” is still screenshots, prompts and beautiful presentations, you are already late.

  • Your bullet note #1

    🧠 WHAT DO I NO LONGER WANT TO CARRY?

     
    Pause for 10–20 seconds.
    Let the first real answer surface — don’t overthink.

     
    ✍️ Write it down fast. Messy is correct. No judgement.

     
    🔍 Scan your notes like a detective.
    Find everything connected — tasks, ideas, reminders.

     
    ❌ Cross it out. Hard.
    If you hesitate… that’s the weight.

     
    ⚡ This isn’t organizing.
    This is cutting load → gaining focus → executing better.

  • Žinot tas paskutines minutes, kai užklausia ar turi mums klausimų, nors nelabai net jų tikisi ir tu jau kaip ir norėtum grįžt prie dabartinio darbo, už kurį tau vis dar moką.

    @Karolis Rimkus šovė linkedinę gruond breaker’į:

    • Kiek ilgiausiai pas jus galima sirgti be biuletenio?
    • Kaip jums geriau, ar kad aš kas valandą eisiu parūkyt, ar nerūkau, bet antradieniais dirbsiu tik pusdienį?
    • Kiek griežta jūsų mobingo politika?
    • Sakykite, o pas jus visuose tualetuose yra dūmų detektoriai?
    • Aš negeriu kavos, bet pas jus kava nemokama, tai gal galėsiu kas mėnesį tiesiog po 400g pupelių ir 3l pieno parsinešti namo?
    • Prie lūkesčių pozicijai neradau nieko apie blaivumą, tai kaip suprantu šioje pozicijoje galiu savo nuožiūra (ties čia pakelkit smakrą ir sprigtelkit sau į kaklą)?
    • Ar būtų problemų, jei mano mama pirmą savaitę pasėdėtų šalia, kol aš apsiprasiu su naujais garsais?
    • Ankstesniuose darbuose esu susidūręs, kad ne visiems patikdavo mano anekdotai, tai noriu pasiteirauti, ar jūsų kolektyve mažumos labai užgaulios?
    • Kai grįšiu namo, ar jums atsiųsti mūsų pokalbio įrašą?
    • Ar jūs tikrinat krepšius, kai darbuotojai eina namo?

      Išsisaugau sau ir ateities kartoms…

      O dabar GPT paserviravo vieną labiau priimtiną paprikolint ( o tikslai tikėtis gauti nuoširdų atsakymą į klausimus, kuriuos atvirai retai, kas atsako) per kitą pokalbį:

    • Kaip organizacijoje žiūrima į darbuotojų sveikatos balansą – tarkim, kiek lankstumo yra trumpalaikiams negalavimams be formalių procedūrų?
    • Kaip vertinate darbo ritmą – svarbiau pastovus tempas per dieną ar lankstumas su individualiais darbo pikais?
    • Kaip realiai veikia jūsų zero-tolerance politika netinkamam elgesiui komandoje?
    • Kiek griežtai laikotės darbo vietos taisyklių – tarkim, kalbant apie saugumą ar bendras ofiso normas?
    • Kiek darbuotojai gali naudotis įmonės suteikiamais „perksais“ – yra labiau simboliniai ar realiai naudojami kasdien?
    • Kaip apibrėžiate profesionalumo standartą komandoje – ar yra aiškios ribos, ar daugiau pasitikėjimu grįsta kultūra?
    • Kaip atrodo pirmoji savaitė naujam žmogui – kiek yra struktūros vs. „mokaisi plaukdamas“?
    • Kaip komandoje priimamas humoras ir neformalus bendravimas – ar labiau konservatyvu, ar laisvesnė atmosfera?
    • Ar darbuotojams leidžiama reflektuoti ir gauti grįžtamąjį ryšį apie pokalbio procesą?
    • Kaip užtikrinamas pasitikėjimas tarp darbuotojų ir organizacijos (pvz., privatumo, kontrolės ribos ir pan.)?

  • Investicinė sąskaita

    Investicinė sąskaita

    Jei neturim Interactive boker – toliau IBKR
    Ir nenorim deklaruoti investicinės sąskatos – toliau IS
    neskaitom.



    – Deklaruojam IBKR paskyrą kaip Investicinę.
    – Iš IBKR išsitrauksiu reikalingas ataskaitas sėkmingam deklaracijos pildymui
    – Į IS priskirsiu iš seniau turimas investicijas (įsigytas iki 2024-12-31) pagal savikainą,
    – Į IS priskirsiu 2025-01-01 IBKR paskyroje turėtą grynųjų likutį.
    – Į IS priskirsiu per 2025 metus atliktus Įnašus į IBKR paskyrą.
    – Sutikrinsiu VMI deklaracijoje matomus Įnašus/Išėmimus susijusius su IBKR sąskaita.

    Pilnas straipsnis: https://sesinuliai.lt/kaip-vmi-deklaruoti-investicine-saskaita/

    Orginalus irasas fb su daug komentarų


    VMI paskelbtas deklaravimo video:


  • ADHD – Brain is built for survival

    ADHD – Brain is built for survival

    Your Brain Isn’t Built for Truth. It’s Built for Survival.

    Your brain is not your friend.
    It’s your security system.

    It scans for threats.
    Assumes the worst.
    Prepares you to survive.

    That’s negativity bias.

    Now add ADHD:

    • Emotions hit harder
    • Rejection cuts deeper
    • Thoughts loop longer

    So a small thing happens…

    Your boss doesn’t reply to your message.

    Your brain says:
    “They’re disappointed in me.”
    “I messed up.”
    “I’m getting fired.”

    No evidence. Just protection mode.

    Action:
    Pause.
    Say it out loud:
    👉 “This is a protection response. Not reality.”
    Create distance immediately.

    Feelings Are Not Facts

    You feel it. So it must be true?

    Wrong.

    You send a message. No reply.
    You feel ignored.

    Your brain says:
    “They don’t respect me.”

    Reality?
    They’re in a meeting. Phone on silent.

    Another one:

    You make a mistake at work.
    You feel shame.

    Your brain says:
    “I’m bad at this.”

    Reality?
    You made one mistake. Everyone does.

    Feelings are fast.
    Truth is slower.

    Action:
    Write it down:

    Thought: “They don’t like me.”
    Facts:

    • They laughed with me yesterday
    • They invited me last week
    • No actual rejection happened

    Separate story from evidence.

    Your Thoughts Are Running the Show

    No one taught you to challenge your mind.
    So you believed everything it said.

    That becomes your identity.

    “I’m not consistent.”
    “I always quit.”
    “I’m too much.”

    You repeat it enough—you live it.

    Example:

    You skip one workout.

    Your brain:
    “See? No discipline.”

    So what do you do?
    Skip the next one too.

    Now it becomes true.
    Because you acted on a thought—not a fact.

    Action:
    Interrupt the pattern.

    Bad thought → Immediate counter:
    👉 “That’s not a rule. That’s a moment.”

    Then act opposite:

    • Missed workout? Do 10 pushups
    • Messed up task? Fix one small part immediately

    Action beats overthinking.

    You Can Rewire This

    Your brain adapts to repetition.

    Right now, you’ve trained it to:

    • Expect failure
    • Assume rejection
    • Look for problems

    That’s reps. Mental reps.

    Change the reps—you change the brain.

    Example:

    Old loop:
    “I always fail” → Avoid → No progress → Reinforce belief

    New loop:
    “I’m learning” → Take action → Small win → Reinforce growth

    It’s not motivation.
    It’s training.

    Action:
    Pick one thought you repeat daily.

    Replace it with something real and usable:

    ❌ “I’m terrible at this”
    ✅ “I’m new at this. I’ll get better with reps.”

    Then prove it with action. Every day.

    Final Reality

    Your mind will lie to you.
    Constantly.

    It will:

    • Exaggerate
    • Generalize
    • Catastrophize

    That’s its job.

    Your job?

    Discipline.

    Not in the gym.
    In your thinking.

    You don’t believe every thought.
    You test it.

    You don’t follow every feeling.
    You lead.

    Action:
    New rule:
    👉 “Don’t trust the first thought.”

    Pause.
    Assess.
    Act with intention—not emotion.




    Inspired by @lifecoachHeidi newsletter

  • Skoniai

    Skoniai

  • Voice

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  • How to Lose Time and Money

    July 2010 – It was way before GPT..

    When we sold our startup in 1998 I suddenly got a lot of money. I now had to think about something I hadn’t had to think about before: how not to lose it. I knew it was possible to go from rich to poor, just as it was possible to go from poor to rich. But while I’d spent a lot of the past several years studying the paths from poor to rich, I knew practically nothing about the paths from rich to poor. Now, in order to avoid them, I had to learn where they were.

    So I started to pay attention to how fortunes are lost. If you’d asked me as a kid how rich people became poor, I’d have said by spending all their money. That’s how it happens in books and movies, because that’s the colorful way to do it. But in fact the way most fortunes are lost is not through excessive expenditure, but through bad investments.

    It’s hard to spend a fortune without noticing. Someone with ordinary tastes would find it hard to blow through more than a few tens of thousands of dollars without thinking “wow, I’m spending a lot of money.” Whereas if you start trading derivatives, you can lose a million dollars (as much as you want, really) in the blink of an eye.

    In most people’s minds, spending money on luxuries sets off alarms that making investments doesn’t. Luxuries seem self-indulgent. And unless you got the money by inheriting it or winning a lottery, you’ve already been thoroughly trained that self-indulgence leads to trouble. Investing bypasses those alarms. You’re not spending the money; you’re just moving it from one asset to another. Which is why people trying to sell you expensive things say “it’s an investment.”

    The solution is to develop new alarms. This can be a tricky business, because while the alarms that prevent you from overspending are so basic that they may even be in our DNA, the ones that prevent you from making bad investments have to be learned, and are sometimes fairly counterintuitive.

    A few days ago I realized something surprising: the situation with time is much the same as with money. The most dangerous way to lose time is not to spend it having fun, but to spend it doing fake work. When you spend time having fun, you know you’re being self-indulgent. Alarms start to go off fairly quickly. If I woke up one morning and sat down on the sofa and watched TV all day, I’d feel like something was terribly wrong. Just thinking about it makes me wince. I’d start to feel uncomfortable after sitting on a sofa watching TV for 2 hours, let alone a whole day.

    And yet I’ve definitely had days when I might as well have sat in front of a TV all day — days at the end of which, if I asked myself what I got done that day, the answer would have been: basically, nothing. I feel bad after these days too, but nothing like as bad as I’d feel if I spent the whole day on the sofa watching TV. If I spent a whole day watching TV I’d feel like I was descending into perdition. But the same alarms don’t go off on the days when I get nothing done, because I’m doing stuff that seems, superficially, like real work. Dealing with email, for example. You do it sitting at a desk. It’s not fun. So it must be work.

    With time, as with money, avoiding pleasure is no longer enough to protect you. It probably was enough to protect hunter-gatherers, and perhaps all pre-industrial societies. So nature and nurture combine to make us avoid self-indulgence. But the world has gotten more complicated: the most dangerous traps now are new behaviors that bypass our alarms about self-indulgence by mimicking more virtuous types. And the worst thing is, they’re not even fun.

    Thanks to Sam Altman, Trevor Blackwell, Patrick Collison, Jessica Livingston, and Robert Morris for reading drafts of this.



    original source: https://paulgraham.com/selfindulgence.html?viewfullsite=1

  • Budism

    Dukkha – subtle but constant background friction

    Tanha – the cause of Dukkha, the reason inside you, not it the outside world

    Nibbana (Nirvana) – liberation


    The Noble Eightfold Path